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Pass Your Exam, Get That Job and Build a Career – Re-launched

Pass Your Exam - High Resolution[22430]Hi, I’ve used the lockdown to re-launch this book with a new front cover (attached). This one’s ‘the business’. Are you in the picture? This book provides everything you need to know about passing that critical professional examination and getting the job you really want. I know – because I worked as a CILEX examiner for more than 20 years setting and marking law exams. I’ve also sat at both sides of the interview-table for more times than I can remember. Thirty years ago a recruitment consultant shook his head and said that my resume was ‘too long in the tooth’. But that didn’t stop me moving on to some top public companies and firms. So you won’t find better. It’ll tell you what to wear, what to say and how you should conduct yourself at interview. And another thing, ‘What is the most tactful way to ask for a pay rise?’ If you don’t ask – you won’t get. But if you ask in the wrong way your relationship with your employer will never be the same. Again, this book will show you how. It could be the best investment you’ll ever make. See it on Amazon.

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Christmas 2018 was sad because my brother Rusi died Christmas Eve at Charing Cross Hospital. He was 92 and had been independent up to the last few months of his life. Rusi lived an eventful life. Born in Bombay to one of twelve siblings, he stands second from left in the photograph taken in Karachi during a visit by a young Prince Faisal. Faisal is standing at the far right of the picture. Immediately to Faisal’s left is my late brother Keki. To the far left of the picture is my late brother Gustad, who also died 2018. The older man standing centre stage is Mahmood, Faisal‘s private secretary. The small boy standing in front of Mahmood is his son, which Mama, through her prayers, helped his wife to conceive.
Rusi was so handsome that Mahmood’s 17 year old daughter fell in love with him. But marriage was not to be. Instead Rusi moved with the rest of our family to London in 1957, following Beheram’s drowning off Hawkesbay Beach three years earlier. It broke us up as a family. Rusi then worked as a BSM driving instructor but still retained business interests in Mumbai, which he had inherited from our late father, Jehangir, and which gave him a living. I miss them. They were like father-figures. Farida

history, medical, mens health, relationships, sex

The King Henry VIII Weightloss Programme

With more than 25% of the adult population obese and astonishing 60% of adults who are overweight, it is small wonder that Britain is the fat man of Europe. A person is clinically obese when their body mass index is more 30. A body mass index of 25-29 means that the person is overweight but short of obese. It also seems that almost every month a different dietitian rediscovers the fact that it is an excessive intake of carbohydrates not fat which causes obesity. A new diet is born. A new book is published.
The original reduced-carbohydrate diet was invented by American cardiologist Dr Robert Atkins and introduced to the world through his 1972 best-seller Dr Atkins’ Diet Revolution – and reissued 20 years later as Dr Atkins’ New Diet Revolution. Atkins challenged existing dietary advice linking calorie intake with weight gain. He argued instead that the real culprit was carbohydrates and in particular, sugar, and sugar directives. Consumption of fat, he said, was a natural part of human diet. It followed that the natural way to lose weight was to cut out sugary products and replace them with a protein rich diet, which also reduces food cravings because they create a feeling of fullness. Bread and potatoes also out, because they contain starch, which breaks down into sugar. By cutting out easy-burn carbohydrates, the body begins to burn fat. It has no choice. Without carbs, there is nothing else to burn. The weight begins to fall away. For the same reason beer wine and spirits are also out, because alcohol is also a fuel. In place of alcohol, drink water. That will increase metabolism, flush out the system and add to the feeling of fullness.
Atkins is not a crash diet. It is about a change in eating habits. Crash diets are bad because the body fights back. When famine strikes, metabolism slows down and the body goes into storage mode. Even worse is yo- yo dieting, when weight actually increases because the body has adapted to a reduced diet. Atkins is not about forcing starvation rations onto an unwilling body. It is about replacing modern over processed foods with something closer to the natural foods which our ancestors ate. In fact one of the earliest proponents of the Atkins diet was King Henry VIII.
Henry ate a gut-busting 5,000 calories each day of a predominantly meat and poultry based diet. It was double an average man’s 2,500 daily calorie intake. The only sugars he consumed were the those occurring naturally in fruit and honey. Only peasants ate vegetables. And it would be another half a century before potatoes were discovered.
For most of his adult life Henry was not the obese, grim-faced, tyrant in a mini-skirt, portrayed by the painter Hans Holbein. He was tall (6’2”), slim, energetic and a ladies-man. He was fun to have around. How that changed on 24th January 1536 when Henry fell off his horse and was crushed in a jousting accident. The 43 year old was knocked unconscious and could not speak for two hours. He seemed to recover but was left with an ulcerated leg which never healed. It changed the course of England ‘s history.
He never jousted again. His lifestyle became sedentary. But what remained constant was his 5,000 daily calorie intake. Without exercise, his waistline ballooned to an eye watering 56”. With the weight gain came the impotence. It is said that what really caused Henry to divorce his fourth wife, Anne of Cleves, was not her reputed ugliness but the fact that he could not consummate the marriage. Was it that same erectile dysfunction which led fifth wife Catherine Howard to seek lovers and eventually lose her head?
Atkins referred to the need to exercise as ‘non-negotiable’. In Henry‘s case it was not his daily 5,000 calorie intake which caused his latter-years obesity but his inability to burn off those calories, caused by the jousting accident.

Taken from ‘Erectile Dysfunction: Finding What’s Right for You’ by Vivian C Ward

mens health, relationships, sex

A Doctor’s One Word Diagnosis

My doctor took only one minute to diagnose my problem. He expressed it in only one word, ‘Stress’. Too ……. right I was stressed. I was stressed because I couldn’t … .. ..

“Which was why I came to see you doctor.”

It’s also why in my book, ‘Erectile Dysfunction: Finding What’s Right for You’, I’ve tried to use humour to drive home the message that there are now effective treatments for a condition which affects more than 10% of men worldwide. I know, I’ve been through it. No-one should suffer break up of a relationship because of a medical problem. Today no-one has to. We are the world’s biggest minority. Next year we’re organising a ‘Pride’ march.

And by the way. Did you know that Atkins didn’t invent the Atkins Diet? It was King Henry VIII. Henry ate a gut busting 5000 daily calorie intake of meat and poultry. Only peasants ate vegetables. But for most of his life, Henry was not the obese mini-skirted tyrant we see in paintings. He was a slim 6’2″. The ladies loved him.

England’s history changed when Henry fell off his horse in a jousting accident and became immobile. His waistline ballooned to an eye watering 56″. Was it the impotence which came with such overweight the reason why 5th wife Catherine Howard took lovers and eventually lost her head? Just a thought.

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Calling all Zoroastrians

Farida J Manekshah’s book ‘Refusing to Bow’ tells the true story of the modern young Zoroastrian Woman who refused to bow down. Not to her family. Not to a violent man. Written up from tapes recorded more than 30 years ago. Provides rare insight into the beliefs and culture of an ancient religion. ‘As a rich man’s daughter, I had everything. But having everything wasn’t enough. I had to throw it all away.’



Daily Prompt: Calling